Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Friends/Sisters Family is what you make it!

Friendship is defined as the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends. Through out our lives we all make and loose friends. I know in my 38 years on this planet I've lost friends I thought always be there and as time went on things changes as they inevitably always do! I have a small group of friends that are not friends anymore to me they are my family. Some of you may not know this about me, but my sister Kelly was stillborn. Since I never got to know her and have the joy of having a little sister or a sister period I started adopting sisters. Like people adopt pets. LOL

Not that I'm without siblings I have a little two younger brothers Kenny who has also passed on and Daniel. Being the oldest and only girl was great. NOT! Though I love my brothers like no other I wish had those changes to have a little sister. That's why I'm glad Tyler and Hayden have each other even if right now they fight all the time. Once they grown up and move out they'll see what a great gift it is to have a partner in crime. Someone to keep your secrets and help you through hard times. But I digress my friends that have become family. I know in my heart I've very blessed for the sisters I have now.  This blog idea came from my sister Amy. She texted me today to say she missed me and wished I was still there with her. She lives in Indiana and I live in Wyoming. We met online and have been best friends/sisters for 14 years! And this summer was the first time we had met face to face. Her text made me think a moment. 'Why would she miss me? We only spent a little time together?!'

In reality she has been with me most of my marriage and was there when I found out I was with Hayden. So, does friendship really on count if you see this person on the daily. Or live in the same time zone. Well I'm here to tell you it doesn't. I'm lucky to have ladies in my life I've known since childhood and our bond has never changed or wavered. And it doesn't matter how much time has passed we always pick up right where we left off. Some of my sisters like Amy I met online and haven't yet to meet them face to face, but that doesn't change nothing. Our bond and connection is strong. Then are the ones that live right here in Wyoming with me. Ms. Donna I adopted whether she liked it or not. She has been in my kids life since my oldest was 2 yrs old. I've lived in Wright for almost 15 years and all those years she's the only one who reached out to me (I bet she wish she hadn't at times. LOL ) to come hang out. And I don't think I've ever told her how much that meant to me that she did that night.

Growing up back home in Tidioute I was use to people always coming over to my house to hang out and moving to Wyoming without any friends or family it was hard for me. I assumed I'd never really make any friends, but thanks to Donna I have made a few here in town. I don't know if you'd call me a hermit or introvert, but I don't normally like meeting new people I always worry they will judge me, because of my handicap. So, I stay to myself mostly. Though behind a keyboard I can be myself. I guess my point of this blog is the saying 'Family is what you make it!' Is true! And I'm so blessed for my group of friends. And if any of you read this! THANK YOU for being you! I love you! Leave me a comment below please! It can be a memory of us or just something to know you read this!!

8 comments:

  1. I remember skipping school at your house, a lot! And dancing in your front yard after school to Backstreet Boys 😂 you are right, it doesn’t matter if you get to physically be with your friends, a lot of times people who are hundreds of miles away can make you feel better than people who are right beside you. I never had sisters as siblings either. I’m so glad that you and me both had daughters so that they could experience having a sister! Love ya!!❤️❤️

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    1. Good times! I love you too! And the fact we are so close means a lot to me!

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  2. Your an example of bestie, aka sister. Only sisters i ever had was in laws. When family wasn't there for me my fb sister aka bestie were. I still have contact with two long time friends from almost fifty years.

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  3. I really like this. Very honest and points out what most of us are afraid to say. We need those bonds and when we don’t have them during certain times of our lives they are definitely missed.

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    1. It's hard when you don't have anyone in your corner and that's one thing about me I'm not afraid to speak my mind. Family is important and its whatever you make it!

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  4. I think that you are awesome! A very compassionate woman that I can say that I am proud to know.

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  5. That means a lot to me coming from you Sandee! <3

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